Happy valentine's to all! :) Hugs and love to my girl friends out there. :) I love the lilies and i love you even more darling. Now my room smells so nice because of you. Hehes. :)

Yest's service was really fantastic and super funny. Haha the drama people really acted so well. Plus Pastor's Kong's jokes and all makes the message so alive. Since it's Valentine's day, Pastor has started a series of message for Relationships/Marriage. Thank you Pastor Kong :):)The bible message for this series is 1 Corinthians 7:3 (GNB) "A man should fulfil his duty as a husband, and a woman should fulfil her duty as a wife, and each should satisfy the other's need." We all have needs. When we love somebody, we will want to meet his/her need. Just like how God have met our needs. When two are married, they should meet each other's needs, and they should give each other's exclusive rights. When the needs are not met, frustration and unhappiness will build up. And conflicts will occur. Marriage is when we vow to spend the whole lifetime with that one person. If that one person cant meet the needs, who can they seek? They will tend to seek the needs elsewhere and that often leads to an affair. It is not intentional and not delibrate. But because the husband and wife does not meet each other's needs. We all have a LOVE BANK for somebody and Love units accumlate and decrease as according to the experience we have with the person.

I believe this is so so true. We cannot be selfish and self-centered in a relationship. If i expect my husband to be meet my needs, i cant neglect his. I want care and affection, but i cant simply just think of myself and my own needs only. Cos he is human too. Who doesnt have needs? He has his needs and i will love to fulfil his needs.

Pastor Kong then talked about the Top 5 needs of women and men, from a survey made for 25 years. He refered to many bible verses and i realise man is Human and not God. And many things like He stopped at the 3rd need cause not enough time and he will continue next week! It's really so true and i think we should learn to meet each other's need in order to have a fulfiling relationship. Thank God for His love and example.

Top 5 needs of Woman

1. Affection
It symbolises security, protection, comfort and approval. The use of expressive words is important to make a woman feels loved. Hugs and kisses are essential to keep her secure and comforted. Man may grew up unaffectionate, but if one truely love his wife, he need to learn. God is so affectionate and expressive, and we must learn to be more like Him. :)

2. Conversation
Woman is wired up for conversation and man should meet their wife's need to communicate. Without communication, wife will feel emotional detached from her husband. 15hours/week is the minimum requirement for each man to talk to his wife. :))

3. Honesty and Openness
Honesty is essential to keep the marriage from misunderstandings. Man should not keep problems from wife, saying that he don't want to worry her. It is because burden built up in man while the woman's ignorance of it will cause the marriage to topple. Husband and wife should handle the burden together and support one another.


Top 5 needs of Man

1. Sexual Fulfilment
The number one need has to be fulfilled by his wife. This doesnt mean the man is dirty or lustful. But it's just how man is wired up to be. That's how God makes us multiply. :)

2. Recreational Companionship
It is important for man to have recreation and have fun. It's important that the most enjoyable time the husband spent is with no other but the wife. The wife must be his best friend. However, the wife must enjoy it as well.

3. Attractive Spouse
We may think that if the guy really love us, he should accept who we are. But one important fact that we need to know is that man is Human, not God. God looks at our heart, but man is attracted to appearance. And wife need to remain attractive even when married for many years.

I think these are all so true. Let us be better lover and make marriage heaven. :)

Today i skipped lecture again. Was feeling very weak since i had fever last fri night. Plus the sleepless nights i felt my body is failing me. I hardly done any school work yet. But i want to be strong. Tiredness and and the discomfort that i have shall not stop me from seeking God. He is the source of my strength. I do not want to resent God like why i keep falling sick and things don't seems to get well. I am thankful to Him that He made me realise alot of things i wouldn't have if i didn't go through all these. He is all full of grace and merciful. He made me realise that this world don't revolve around just us alone. The love people showed me really touched me from deep bottom.. There are many many people around us who are in need of help.. but how often do we really give our time.. in midst of such self-centered life.. to be there to help and be their comfort.. Jesus was there for people and not for Himself. It's time to reflect on our life and see how many people have we blessed and helped.. Many times it's these that determine how fruitful and satisfying our life is.. Thank You Jesus.. I shall be more of you and less of myself. I thank all who stood by me.. You all made a significant difference in my life. . Love you all. T_T

Dar dar.. Thank you for staying by my side.. You are more than what i could ever asked for. Thank you dar i love you.. It will all be better. Let's believe together. :)

Today i went for medical checkup at ttsh. Finally :) The doc says my heart is fine. He asked if i want to undergo an exercise ECG test to double check but.. it's ex! so decided to forgo it! Think i am really too stressed up and even now although the doc says i'm fine, i still have some weird attacks. Fear can creep in just anytime out of nowhere and i will start to feel panicky. x . x But i thank God that He has not forsaken me. Each time when i focus onto Him and His words, it will slowly go away. The Lord is good and He is always good. He drew me out of the deepest sea. When i was in my worst period of time i seek His presence and cried out to Him hoping that He will hear my tiny voice of helplessness. And He did. He placed many people around me to encourage and help me through it. Dear Wan ee ruth cheryland wei lun thanks for praying for me for today. Hees mei meis also so sweet keep assuring me that it'll be okays.. You all are God-sent angels to me. Hugs. :)

I'm learning now how to set my priorities right. The many things that has happened has made me realise alot of things. Matt 6:33 "But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well." I'm learning to put God first in priority. It is when we have His characters that we're able to do things well. I was too tensed up and my hearts was filled with fears and uncertainty that i got too stressed up. But 2 tim 1:7 "For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline." Self discipline is one which i have to work on it. PROCRASTINATION is my biggest weakness. I can decide on doing the work early but ended up rushing like mad last min! And often, that happens too oftenly, i will be distracted, more easily than i thought. Hehes focusing is the new shortcut to completion of a task! The Lord will be my strength and my direction. :)

Hees next sat is Valentine's day. I'm looking forward to spend it with my dar. He is really sweet that he bought me a dress for me to wear on that day. Thanks darling i love you.. :)

These are the few worship songs that i will sing when i pray to God. Lovely songs. :)









Tired. hehes. Good night. :)

I skipped school today. Was feeling unwell. Felt lethargic actually and drained. Has a rather bad appetite recently. Felt nausea and the sight of food don't make me feel good. T_T Must be the antibiotic that upset my stomach and all. But i still try to eat more thank God i didn't vomit or what. Please pray for me i have sebacous cysts and prayerfully they will be well totally and gone forever. x . x Prayerfully is a new word i've learnt from ruth. Hees she's one of the people i respect the most. ^ - ^

Hees though am not feeling that well, i had a wonderful new year! Am not going to lt it dampened my new year mood! Have uploaded loads of photo to facebook ya. Had a really great cny service on sat. Pastor Kong has impacted all of us with his word of God. He relate our chinese roots with christianity, and how God has made known Himself in many ways, only that we do not know it. Hees then i had a superb reunion dinner with my family! Had steamboat =D x . x

Hehes then went visiting to dar's house on the next day to bai nian! Saw his brother's baby so cute and bui feel like pinching his face =D

Went to grandmother's house on tue and spent much time over there. Watched tv and slacked, nearly fell asleep on the sofa. =x Took these pics on the way to her house. :D

Me and my mom :)

My bro, me and mum

Dad and mom!

My lovely family... <3<3<3

Update again soon. Tired. zzz