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Sunday, February 15, 2009

Happy valentine's to all! :) Hugs and love to my girl friends out there. :) I love the lilies and i love you even more darling. Now my room smells so nice because of you. Hehes. :)

Yest's service was really fantastic and super funny. Haha the drama people really acted so well. Plus Pastor's Kong's jokes and all makes the message so alive. Since it's Valentine's day, Pastor has started a series of message for Relationships/Marriage. Thank you Pastor Kong :):)The bible message for this series is 1 Corinthians 7:3 (GNB) "A man should fulfil his duty as a husband, and a woman should fulfil her duty as a wife, and each should satisfy the other's need." We all have needs. When we love somebody, we will want to meet his/her need. Just like how God have met our needs. When two are married, they should meet each other's needs, and they should give each other's exclusive rights. When the needs are not met, frustration and unhappiness will build up. And conflicts will occur. Marriage is when we vow to spend the whole lifetime with that one person. If that one person cant meet the needs, who can they seek? They will tend to seek the needs elsewhere and that often leads to an affair. It is not intentional and not delibrate. But because the husband and wife does not meet each other's needs. We all have a LOVE BANK for somebody and Love units accumlate and decrease as according to the experience we have with the person.

I believe this is so so true. We cannot be selfish and self-centered in a relationship. If i expect my husband to be meet my needs, i cant neglect his. I want care and affection, but i cant simply just think of myself and my own needs only. Cos he is human too. Who doesnt have needs? He has his needs and i will love to fulfil his needs.

Pastor Kong then talked about the Top 5 needs of women and men, from a survey made for 25 years. He refered to many bible verses and i realise man is Human and not God. And many things like He stopped at the 3rd need cause not enough time and he will continue next week! It's really so true and i think we should learn to meet each other's need in order to have a fulfiling relationship. Thank God for His love and example.

Top 5 needs of Woman

1. Affection
It symbolises security, protection, comfort and approval. The use of expressive words is important to make a woman feels loved. Hugs and kisses are essential to keep her secure and comforted. Man may grew up unaffectionate, but if one truely love his wife, he need to learn. God is so affectionate and expressive, and we must learn to be more like Him. :)

2. Conversation
Woman is wired up for conversation and man should meet their wife's need to communicate. Without communication, wife will feel emotional detached from her husband. 15hours/week is the minimum requirement for each man to talk to his wife. :))

3. Honesty and Openness
Honesty is essential to keep the marriage from misunderstandings. Man should not keep problems from wife, saying that he don't want to worry her. It is because burden built up in man while the woman's ignorance of it will cause the marriage to topple. Husband and wife should handle the burden together and support one another.


Top 5 needs of Man

1. Sexual Fulfilment
The number one need has to be fulfilled by his wife. This doesnt mean the man is dirty or lustful. But it's just how man is wired up to be. That's how God makes us multiply. :)

2. Recreational Companionship
It is important for man to have recreation and have fun. It's important that the most enjoyable time the husband spent is with no other but the wife. The wife must be his best friend. However, the wife must enjoy it as well.

3. Attractive Spouse
We may think that if the guy really love us, he should accept who we are. But one important fact that we need to know is that man is Human, not God. God looks at our heart, but man is attracted to appearance. And wife need to remain attractive even when married for many years.

I think these are all so true. Let us be better lover and make marriage heaven. :)

With Faith & Love @ 9:17 PM